So are you seeing someone?

Hello my fellow wandering and sometimes slightly lost souls. Let’s talk about one of the most frequently asked questions. “So are you seeing someone?”

I get this question from my mother, my aunts, my friends, and sometimes strangers. To the adoring strangers, yes I am happily in love (with my life). To my family and friends, simply yes I do date. 

Dating is a great way to meet new people. I always encourage people to put themselves out there. Get on the apps. Talk to the person you’re waiting behind in line at the grocery store. Maybe you’ll find your soulmate. Maybe you find someone you spend a month with and just have some fun ;) Maybe they aren’t your other half but they end up meaning something else to you.

Maybe you meet your sober buddy. The one you call when it seems like no one else would get it.

Maybe you meet someone you and you go on a few adventures together. Then you go your separate ways, but leave with some great memories.

Maybe you meet a girl that loves the same books as you and you just feel seen.  

Dating can be hard when you aren’t ready to stay in one place. When you know that most people will stay and you will leave. It’s hard being the person that says goodbye. Yet, I still do it. I like the connections I make with the people I meet, even if it is for a short time. Maybe I’ll end up finding someone that’ll wander with me.

I don’t know what I’m looking for, but I know I’ll recognize it when it comes. I am a thirty something year old that still has no clue what she wants in her dating life. And that’s OKAY. I figure when it shows up everything will fall into place. Or maybe it won’t.

I’m not on a timeline. I won’t let a biological clock tell me how much time I have left to find love. Right now I’m okay just loving life 🤍